By Hugo Martinez
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Sexual abstinence until marriage is one of God’s Divine life-saving plans for us. In 1 Thessalonians 4:4 it says, “Each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable.” Paul charges believers in Thessaloniki to learn to manage their own bodies in a responsible manner before God.
Another passage, essential for understanding this concept, is recorded in 1 Corinthians 6:18: “Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.” This means that when we participate in a sexual relationship outside of the bonds of a loving, committed marriage, we sin against our own bodies.
Someone wrote Josh McDowell a letter, which appears in his book Why Wait? The letter said, “Sinning against your own body means that you lose respect for your body, as well as for the body of the one you’re involved with. Once you lose respect for your body, it becomes increasingly easy to indulge in promiscuous sex. Your attitude toward this Divine gift becomes practically as casual as a handshake.”
Once we lose respect for our bodies, our definition of love becomes distorted to the point that we begin to focus solely on its physical benefits. We eventually become trapped in the illusion of seeking love through sexual encounters. We must understand that the needs for security, commitment and unity are our most basic, foundational needs, and they cannot be substituted with the counterfeit love that the world offers. God created us with these emotional needs. This is why a teenage girl wants to be hugged; this is why a teenage boy feels the need to embrace the girl he cares about in order to make her feel protected and loved.
We may wonder where these desires come from. Without a doubt, these needs were designed by God. These cravings were created to be fulfilled within a relationship that involves trust and a mutual protection, a relationship where a couple can grow in intimacy, not only through sex, but on an emotional and spiritual level, as well. Every time we want to draw a line between sex and marriage (a life-long commitment), the relationship becomes twisted, and it is no longer protected from the issues that will try to destroy it.
The message I want to communicate to you through this article is that God loves you and wants the best—and only the best—for you. God is not saying that sex is evil or dirty; He simply created it for a specific time and place in our lives. We deprive ourselves of joy whenever we try to make our own adjustments to His original plan. He has provided us with a path to total unity and pleasure through sex, but He has also given us a specific way that we can enjoy this gift. He told us to wait until marriage because He loves us and wants us to live an abundant life.
When we choose to ignore God’s desires for our lives, we also choose to accept all the consequences that come as an aftermath of that decision. God wants to guard our lives. He also doesn’t want to see us tormented by a disease that could have catastrophic consequences for the rest of our lives. He wants us to enjoy the security and health that accompany His Divine plan.
There is absolutely no safe sex outside of marriage; anyone who says anything different is lying. Every expert that has studied this matter has discovered that the percentage of risk in any method of “safe sex” is embarrassingly high. THERE IS ABSOLOUTLY NO SAFE SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE.
The medical school at the University of Texas conducted an extensive study of the results of eleven different cases of HIV and found the following results: “In regards to HIV, the only effective method of prevention is abstaining from intercourse with anyone who may have ever come in contact with the virus. There is no other way!” Studies like this prove that there is no safe sex other than within a loving, committed marriage.
Anyone who is sexually active outside of the marriage covenant is simply playing Russian roulette. Since viruses pass from one person to another through the physical act of sex, anyone we sleep with puts us in contact with the people they have also slept with. God wants to protect us from this. He is not a distant God, sitting in Heaven, Who says that sex is a sin simply because it’s fun. God knows that there is only one way to protect us from these certain deadly diseases. That way is by remaining abstinent until we are married.Like what you've read? Receive free email updates from The Voice Online: Subscribe